You've got the same problem all these men have. You think about dating wrong.

Your self worth should never tied whether or not someone will go out with you.

If someone declines a date with you they are not saying you are not good enough. Your insistence on reading that out of a refusal is hurting you.

I've turned down plenty of guys. Nothing in the world to do with them, they were great guys. We just wanted different things, had different values, intents on how to live our lives, whatever. That just means they weren't the best match FOR ME. But women are not a monolith and we are not dolls that rolled off a factory floor. Different women want different things. We have different values and different ideas about how we want to live our lives. Which means, just because one women refuses you or moves on doesn't mean all women will.

Likewise, I've been dumped and refused by my share. It's nothing personal. I don't take it as such. Instead, I take it as a form of grace. They're doing me a favor by not wasting my time and stringing me along once they know they don't see something long term with me. You know?

If men thought about rejection in that way, they wouldn't allow them selves to be so emotionally battered over dating to the point of acting like a toddler.

Doesn't mean you don't experience the hurt of rejection, especially when you had higher hopes cause it's still going to sting; it does mean you can move on better and not wallow in self pity for years because you got rejected or it didn't work out.

Perspective, dude.

The rest of your comment comes back to what I said. You don't really want it. If you did, it wouldn't matter how many times you got knocked down. You'd get up and try again, you'd learn as much as you could, you'd strategize, you'd get real with yourself, etc.

How many times did you get knocked down or miss a shot before you made all state?

How many hours did you spend in the backyard shooting arrows at a target and learning to track before you brought down a deer?

How many attempts did you make going up against a BOSS before you completed a game?

How many times did you put yourself out there to get a raise or a promotion? How much extra did you have to do?

Exactly.

You don't really want it.

Y'all have got what you want. For most guys that boils down to two things. Y'all are either getting off on one of them, or both of them.

A constant pity party of one or a chance to hate on women for the dopamine.

If you weren't getting something out of it, y'all would treat dating like the other things you truly care about.