You've got a conflationary narrative problem and you're stuck in both bimodal AND transactional thinking.

That said, this is a good example of why it's useless to try to have good faith discussions with so many men. It's a prime front eow seat of how there's what gets said by women, what kibd of becomes consensus, more or less over time, and then there's what men hear out of all that, mostly as a function of being stuck in bimodal transactional thinking.

So good on ya for that. Well done.