You’re whole theory is beyond preposterous. I could spend hours shredding it but I’ll leave it at… women are not a monolith. We don’t all want the same things any more than all men do.

In regards to the particular interaction the author described, your theory falls apart here at “honest interaction”. He wasn’t being honest. He was perpetuating a fraud and then attempted to gaslight her with false grievance when she refused to be strung along.

If a man doesn’t want to honor a marriage commitment he shouldn’t get married in the first place or he should end the marriage, open it honestly and then include new people honestly.

Otherwise, he’s really just using women, no matter how you try to paint it. The same thing applies to women who lie about being married. It’s a fraud.