You're still in the same place, even if you switch who's getting what, in your opinion.

If argue that men are NOT chasing for romance because they generally don't understand it, are disinterested in cultivating it, and chronically complain about doing romantic things. They also denigrate each other for being romantic.

It let's go with your take where men ate seeking romance and women are seeking commitment.

If that were true, marriages would occur by contract and contract alone. If commitment were the only thing that mattered or even m, just say, for outshadowed all other considerations, there would be no point to dating or looking for compatibility and attraction.

Marriage would and could exist as a clear business transaction.

But we KNOW that's not true for women.

We also know most men don't want that either and those who think they do, wouldn't be happy with it if they had it or they're just something wrong with them.

The problem with your take is obvious.

Both men and women are looking for both romance (love and affection) and commitment in long term partners. It's not one or the other. There needs to be full reciprocity on both to sustain a lifetime of living together in harmony.

No matter how you slice it. Your take is reductive, reactive, and not well thought out.