You're not missing her point, you're just misinformed.

Most male/male competition is not particularly violent compared to either interspecies violence or violence between human males. It just looks that way to us. But ruts rarely end in severe injury or death. Football would likely have higher stats, per capita. And men play that for fun.

Sex is not violent for other females either. You see a lot of stuff about this, particularly online, but it's myth. You have to remember that most of our observations of animals and published work on their sexuality was heaving influenced by Victorian era thinking, where females were ALWAYS described as reticent, delicate, needing to be coaxed, etc.

So you see a female squirrel take off running and being chased down by a male and she's trying to get away, fleeing from sexual assault. Oh no, it's so violent.

Except that she was clearly flagging him, strutting around in front of him, flocmer her tail, wafting pheremones up his nostrils. She weighs less than he does, if she wants to ditch him, it's not hard, just head across a branch he's too heavy for. Watch him fall. Chitter laugh. And then do it again.

She's testing his fitness.

If he happens to catch her before she's decided he's the one or she's not ready yet, then she can clamp her tail down over her vulva easy enough. Those muscles are not light weights and he physically can't move it to penetrate. That's true of most tailed mammals.

I don't know of any animals that beat on or exhibit violence toward the females of their species the way that human males do. Except maybe chickens. Or rats. Cold hard facts.