You're entitled to your opinion as well and I understand what she's getting at. She's just missing the mark in my opinion.

Of course, no one is saying that young unwed single moms deserve scorn any more than any other single mother.

And that's not the point.
That's nowhere near the point.

The best way to break apart a stereotype is to prove it is untrue. If most single mothers get there through divorce rather than being young and "irresponsible", then the stereotype is untrue. It's okay to acknowledge the stereotype without agreeing with or confirming it. You're only saying you've heard the narrative and then you lay out how it's bullshit. Boom. Stereotype swatted.

This particular stereotype narrative is harmful to women on a few levels. It paints women as sexually irresponsible and is used as an excuse to control our bodies. It also makes a natural biological function something we should be given permission to do, otherwise we are "wrong" and have "wronged" a man, our child, and our families.

No doubt, the narrative needs to be challenged on all fronts. Part of that is dispelling the myth that all single moms are the same. It's not about subcategories. It's about recognizing us as individual human beings rather than props in a political drama. Another part is pushing back hard that any way of being a single mom is "wrong" or "wrongs" someone else. Women do not create children by themselves. They shouldn't carry all the blame and scorn for their natural biological functions. There shouldn't be any blame or shame for it. Ever.