You’re coming into this conversation without the benefit of having seen the original thread.
The one where he blamed women for not being able to find a date.
He doesn’t have bad experience dating or trying to date. He has next to no experience because he talks himself out of pursuing dating long before he ever puts forth any real effort. Can’t devalue his experience when he doesn’t really have any. He convinced himself that women aren’t interested in him because he’s never noticed one checking him out.
I’m not surprised really. It seems a pretty common theme from a lot of men. It’s aggravating and eye roll worthy, but hardly shocking or news worthy.
Finally, I wasn’t self promoting or whatever you said. I’m a woman, not a man. To have dated so many as a woman does not grant you respect or a trophy, it gets you slut shamed and called names usually, regardless of whether or not you slept with them. Why else would I have deliberately stated that fact when it’s nobody’s damn business who I have sex with? Men are less likely to date you when you’ve dated a lot too. They assume that you have had sex with all those men because they would have banged any woman they went out with. Ergo, they assume your pussy is worn out or you were a "working girl".
Despite my full dating life, I’m still unpartnered too. I’m not complaining, my life is great right now, I’m happy where I’m at, and I don’t want to date any more. It’s exhausting, especially since the Trump years.
And there in lies the point. Some people spend their entire lives with their high school sweetheart, some people find meaningful connection and love later in life, some people need several attempts to settle in with a permanent partner, and some people never find a partner.
There’s no guarantee for any of us. No one is owed a romantic partner. It’s not the fault of women that it’s this way. It’s always been this way. Marriage forced by economic servitude does not equal a deep connection or a partner. It’s not the fault of men it’s this way either. It’s always been this way.
Effort increases your chances, but it’s no guarantee. There is an element of luck or serendipity involved that cannot be learned, bought, or gifted.
The only thing for sure is that if you don’t put yourself out there with or without female "encouragement" you won’t stand any chance and that’s no one’s fault but your own.
It’s not the job of women to "atta boy" you all the way to romantic success either. Our job is to evaluate you for ourselves and ourselves alone as individuals. That’s work and time involvement enough.
It’s on you if you see that fact in such a harsh light that you think because a small number of women rejected you that you’ve been rejected by all women. We don’t roll off a factory floor with programmable options. Every one of us is different and unique.
It’s almost like we’re human. Or something.
