You're assuming those were there when I made that comment with the list. They weren't. I was one of the first respondants. Like, the second, I think. Maybe the third. Can't quite remember.

I revisited the article later in the day when there had been more engagement. That's when I made those other comments because a lot of his comments are iffy.

So you're suggesting that men get to change the basic mechanics of language and how grammer works and women are just supposed to automatically pick up on this over the internet without the contextual clues of tone or facial expression? ??

These aren't face to face interpersonal interactions, Tony. That's a false equivalence and you know it. We're all anonymous here online. John Henry is not his name, it's a moniker. That means none of us have the excuse of being a coward here. There are no real life repurcussions to saying your piece or not candy coating. So that's thin.

Let me share some wisdom from my Grandma. She was direct too. If you want to tell somebody something that is important to you andnyiu need them to understand, you best tell it to them using language they can understand and relate to. And don't be mealy mouthed about it. It's annoying.

Also, in the comments he said he wasn't lonely, not that he was. He said he was a reformed "nice guy". That might mean that he was lonely once upon a time and has since course corrected but neither one of us know that for sure. You're projecting.