You're assuming the choices are between a dominant man and a submissive man.

This is where you both err.

People exist on a continuum of traits. We are not two dimentional paper dolls that must be kept in their boxes. What you advocate is the inverse of the very box were trying to escape from.

And no we don't want it. We want to return to our natural selves, fully embodied, unique spiritual mosaics of humanity, each precious and free.

We don't want the damned box. We don't want the box turned over either. Keep it, if you can't get through life without it but we don't want it.