Your essay is full of internalized patriarchal myths and narratives that are ridiculous. You've also shown yourself to be financially illiterate. Net is the key figure to concern yourself with. Not gross. It doesn't matter how much a guy makes it he can't afford a $400 emergency. There are 6 digit incomes who can't, and low $30K incomes who are not only solvent, debt free, and propertied but they are living their drama life outside that rat race without having had to exploit someone or turn to greed like a CEO.

You just can't see it because you've marinated in the red-pill narrative too long.

It's not what you make. It's what you get to keep at the end of the month, what you're doing with that excess, and what you're having to sacrifice to get that paycheck.