Your dumping the risk onto women for the errors of men. PUAs came about not because men are shy and need help but because men think they're entitled to a woman and get off on dehumanizing them or humiliating them for some perceived slight.

You men wanted the snake oil. Even with ones like Andrew Tate bragging about raping, beating, and controlling women, trafficking, breaking the law in other ways (cheating taxes, etc).

You men wanted the snake oil. You were dumb enough to allow some grifter to convince you that women are like NPRs that you can ealk up to, enter the secret code, and pussy will magically rain from the sky for you or your manic pixie dream girl would show up to level you up.

You men wanted the snake oil. You still do.