Your article coddles violent men and lays the burden of fixing them primarily on women, by inference.

First off, there's a failure to recognize, again, that these feelings are universal, not just something that happens in men boys.

Then, you put the burden on "reaching out" to these young men and "listening" without once acknowledging that

1. There is value in skill sets that have been falsely labeled as "feminine" that men should be investing more in rather than suppressing. These are human skill sets that we all need.

2. Because those skill sets have been labeled as "feminine", when you say "we" without specifically calling upon men to up their game here, you're inferring that women need to be doing more outreach to lonely men.

3. You back this blame and shame up by implying that women avoid these "type of guys" because of an "ick" factor over their 'averageness', rather than a recognition that they are already violent misogynist at this point and that implies that the suggested "outreach" be romantic/sexual in nature.

4. Your focus is on others reaching g out to connect with the lonely, rather than an expectation that the lonely take some accountability for their own selves and reach out when they're down rather than expecting everyone else to read their minds. That's laying the burden of YOUR emotional regulation on OTHERS who can NOT know what's going on with you if you don't tell them and then blaming those others for being busy with their own lives and their own emotional regulation and that of their family and friends.

You're asking g for these young men to be coddled rather than setting societal requirements for them to develop skill sets that will help them and the societal expectation that they will do so and grow up.

I don't speak for all women, but you can miss me with that. I raised my child. And I did it during a time frame when motherhood is one of the most isolating experiences known to mankind. I didn't get coddled. I seem to recall a lot of, "well, you wanted a baby" and "nobody made you have a baby".

So, I don't know own what to tell you. Oh, wait, I do. "Well, he wanted to hero worship Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson". "Nobody made him play video games all day, that was his choice".