You will likely get no points for non-participation as you said, but also get negative points because you’ve ruined their experience now as well by the constant whining and complaining. I’d rather go do something with friends than be humiliated in public by my husband acting like a spoiled brat who thinks he’s being martyred at the Orpheum theatre . But is really just ruining my birthday.

Yeah. That marriage ended 25+years ago. And that particular dynamic still provokes such pain and anger.

Glad to hear you’re doing better and treating new partners with more respect.