You were born female. Femininity is what has been used to control, police, subjugate, define, corrupt, bend, and weaken your femaleness.

Because you've never gotten to define it.

If you had, it wouldnt be so confining and constricting. You wouldn't feel suffocated by it.

Sure you would be compassionate. But you'd also be wanton.

Sure you would be nurturing. But you would also be wild.

Sure you would want to be safe. But you would also embrace chaos.

And so forth and so on.

Femininity destroys much of the better parts of femaleness.