You should consider taking a break from social media. You're allowing yourself to be manipulsted amd becoming overwrought.
Cry wherever and however you want or not at all. That's no one's business. Anyone who tells you different, male or female, is not a feminist. They're an authoritarian jerkweed. Last night I stopped while taking Jupe for her eveining walk and consoled a homeless man who's dog had gotten hit by a car and died. He was bawling his eyes out. Would have been just as fine if all he managed was a delicate solitary trickle down one cheek or no tears at all. The point is, he was expressing grief in some way other than anger and violence, which is toxic, limited, poisonous (to the man) masculinity.
Don't accept that straightjacket fellas. You're hurting yourself when you do. Grief is an appropriate reaction to loss, regardless of exactly what it looks like to the individual.
Anyone saying any different is in contrast to feminist ideology, regardless of who they claim to be.
Women don't chest guy because they have breasts. They chest guy because men staring at their chests make them feel self conscious about their chests. It's an act of concealment. Cold will make nipples more prominent so you see this behavior more when women get chilled because the puckering of the nipple (beyond their control) draws the attention of men who them often, subconsciously, do something/make some gesture indicating sexual interest (like adjust their belts). Given the context of the situation, this makes women extremely uncomfortable so they'll perform concealment behavior like.chest hugging, stepping away, angling away, deflecting attention, etc.
This is clearly different than manspreading, which sometimes is a dominant display, but not always. Depends. Sometimes it seems to be an expression of homophobia. Sometimes, it's splooting, like a squirrel, kind of. Sometimes it's fatigue.
And let's be clear that what women refer to as manspreading is specific. It's not just having your legs apart to keep from squishing your balls.
You don't need more than a 15 degree spread for the average man to keep from squishing your balls.
What women refer to as manspreading is like a 90 degree spread or more, specifically in a crowded seating environment, like a bus or a theater, where said spread is infringing upon the space of others.
If you've been running track, and are relaxing against bleachers with your legs at a 100 degree angle with no one else's pace infringed upon, you are not manspreading.
You are splooting; which is perfectly acceptable as we all understand that sweaty balls are no one's friend, for several reasons.
If you're on a bus and there's plenty of room but you see some guys coming to get on so you spread out to 90 plus degrees, preventing thise men from sitting next to you ....
Well, some one say this is manspreading, some would say not. Some say it's a dominance display, some say not.
I personally land on that it's homophobic behavior and signalling fear based stress. You see men with the Christian fish tattoo or other parephernalia doing this a lot on buses. Of course. Lot of bros with Nordic based ink too. Witness the irony there.
If you're just tired and lounging out of everyone's way, you're not manspreading. You're reclining. That's either fatigue or ease.
See the differences?
Context matters. Things mean what they mean, no more, no less.
Educate yourself in real feminist ideology, not internet ravings. There's no point in getting so bent out of shape about something you haven't bothered to understand properly in the first place.
