You know... just because two women have a discussion about motherhood or whatever doesn't automatically make that discussion a feminist one, even if that discussion is about societal expectations regarding motherhood.

Just because two feminists talk about remaining childless vs raising children doesn't mean that that discussion is an expression of their feminism. Even if they're lesbians, they could just be shooting the shit. No more, no less.

Feminists are allowed to exist and engage with the world outside the sociopolitical landscape of their feminism. Just like everyone else.

Your entire essay is based on false premises. That if a woman writes about her life, she MUST be a feminist. That if a feminist speaks about an issues she MUST be doing so as an angry feminist. That if a woman participates in a political discussion, she MUST be raving about the patriarchy. That if a woman writes about her frustrations with how men treat women she MUST be a man hater.

Your entire argument falls apart when you see women as dynamic, individual women who exist in several nuanced niches, if you will. We don't roll off a factory floor. We don't have one setting that we cannot exist outside of.

You realize this, because you talked about it, but you only realize it in one direction. You haven't grasped the bi-directionality of this fact.

It's not that feminism has gone awry. We haven't gotten away from the roots as much as people like you claim. It's that not every discussion by a woman is a feminist one in the first place. Claiming that it is, or criticizing from the standpoint that it is just shows your own ignorance, misogyny, or is a bad faith argument from the get go.