You just keep circling back to the same thing. The idea that men are just helpless victims of female whims. Like you have no say.

How many of these men you know who want to be househusbands are actively out there advertising themselves as potential househusbands? How many are making that their selling point?

Every pairing is a bilateral choosing/selling event. Every one. You cannot blame one side for not choosing what you want to offer if you never offered it in the first place.

Why would you assume most women know having a househusband is a potential choice when you yourself didn't until you hit the kink scene?

And all because most of us have no interest in lording power over men? Because we want to share it?

You're drawing a lot of fast and loose conclusions.