You forgot about the labor dumping of it. That's no small thing.

Also, you're not being gaslighted. You men are getting a response, "yeah, and? This is the way you wanted it remember? Protecting the economic engine is more important than a few weak people who can't get their shit together. Remember? What do you want me to do about it? We haven't figured out how to protect ourselves from it yet. What do you think we're supposed to do for you?"

I return you to the idea of reciprocity.

And yeah, seems like you men are asking women, feminists in particular, to fix your problems and your hurts so you can go back to disregarding ours. That's what these articles are throwing out there.

There's always as much in what doesn't get said as there is in what does.

Some acknowledgement, some promises, and some action on the part of men rather than internet tantrums and diatribes would have been better received.

And that's where Behar has the right of it. Men are not and have never been valued for their looks and their looks alone the way that women have. It's no comparison. Not by a long shot.

It's foolish for men to poke at that scab the way they've been doing and think they'll be thanked for "enlightening" women about the pain of objectification.

My God. The hubris of that.