You cannot waste empathy on grievance thinkers. There will always be another grievance. It's a form of narcissism. These people are empathy leeches and they will use your empathy against you.

There is a difference between having empathy for men's legitimate struggles and wasting time and energy on someone who has decided to hate you from stoking a litany of grievances. They're not going to stop hating you because you showed them some empathy.