You bring up a very good point as well. No doubt there's a shock and adjustment period when you become a single mom. A lot of moms find themselves alone and in the red. Then there's the divorce expense, etc. Getting an award of child support or alimony is not the same as collecting it.

But, once the transition ends and you get it figured out, life is so much better and easier for most women raising those kids alone than with a dead weight partner, an absentee one, or one who just makes you miserable.

It's a shame more men don't step into parenting wholeheartedly. The ones who do aren't setting the example they should be. That's worse poorly but I don't know how else to say it.

It's like, society sees fatherhood as a title (participation trophy) that gets bestowed upon you rather than a journey, a quest, a job, a goal, a state of being, something you'd want to work at and achieve excellence at, etc. It's also like fatherhood is something that happens to you rather than something you made happen, either purposefully or negligently. It's not a part of who you are the way it is with mothers.

Don't get me wrong, the way society views mothers is completely wack as well. Motherhood shouldn't be all you are, all your worth, or your only purpose in life. You shouldn't be expected to sacrifice your whole life to it. That's crazy.

Since society doesn't value fatherhood in a manner that would make me want to strive for it, nobody sees the good examples out there of men thriving in fatherhood. It's not what they think of them for.