Yes, you are. And supportive. And endlessly compassionate and patient because they're hurting (who are they hurting again?) and they're "trying" and they just need sympathy.

If only! .....If only women would give them support and validation they would be so much better, as history clearly shows.

No matter what though, you must be kind. Because if you aren't kind to men, they might get angry. And that will lead to them becoming violent. And it is so much harder to blatently ignore the problem of men's violence when it's impact isn't hidden behind closed doors or obfuscated behind the slower war of attrition women have already been under forever. Haed to ignore murder when it's more industrialized, yeah? And all those manifestos, written and video. Almost impossible to gasligt away trial worthy evidence.

So you make sure you're kind to men. It is crucial to the maintenance of some mythical metaphorical fence men supposedly sit on that the majority of men remain innocent of the impact of the violence of their brethern. They need to feel good about themselves, you know. Not feel like monsters or evil or bad or whatever word they use makes them feel when mentioning how women talking about the effects and consequences of violent men.

Lastly, asking them to set aside that violent potential is just a step too far. How will they be men? Did you ever think of that? No, you silly goose. You have no idea how hard it is to be a man. So don't you do that either. It's sexist and misandric.