Yes they did. And yes they still do.

So, do women. Even those of us desperately trying to change things. We still find ourselves doing things and falling for things that are against our best interests. Sometimes even things that hurt men.

We all are born into, socialized for, and participate in patriarchy in obvious ways and not so obvious ways.

But enough women are taking responsibility to be the change. We've dedicated our lives to it. We're working on it, imperfectly and stumbling, every day. We're teaching our children different.

It's not about blame. Men cannot be blamed for what they were born into any more than women can.

It is about accountability and taking responsibility for the problem. Clearly this social system is ill fitted to modern life. It might have been the best option way back when, when we lived pastoral lives, but we're done with that now. Have been for a while. If it was the best option for now, it wouldn't be killing us and making us miserable. And it is. It's hurting women for sure, but it's hurting men too. Why aren't you men stepping up to ahoulder the burden like women are?

If men want compassion, maybe they should stop trying to dodge blame and step up to accept accountability to change things for all of us. Especially if they want to be considered leaders as part of their manhood. Ahem ahem.

It does matter what you're leading people toward.

So what will it be? More death and despair? Or a journey to something better?