Yes, I would say more and money. That said, it's also true that you get those things down the line as slow reward from changing how you think and how you choose to live your life.

I have a different perspective on this than most Americans due to a few factors.

The influence of my grandmother and my grandfather's response and quality of life because of it.

Juxtaposed against my parent's relationship and their strife and bitterness toward each other due in large part to how they each related to gender schema.

My role as the head of household and primary provider as a single mother.

My choice as a feminist to begin the long hard work of unpacking those gender schema, gaining opposite gender skill sets, releasing negative feelings of not being good enough because of extremes of feminine in advertising and such, changing my thinking and gow I live my life and raise my own daughter.

And make no mistake. I got a lot of blowback for some of the choices I made. Still do.

But the proof is in the pudding.

I have a teenage daughter. Unlike most of my cohort:

Contrary to tropes, we do not have an antagonistic relationship. We're very close.

I am 51 years old. I'm not on any kind of medication.

I don't feel like I'm drowning or alone.

I know I am loved, appreciated, and cared about and for.

I don't stress about getting sick. If I do, we'll be fine. I will be cared for and given time to get well and the household will not fall apart.

I don't hate my body anymore.

I mostly get all the sleep and rest I need.

If I need time for rest, daughter will pick up the slack a while; I do the same for her.

My family actually wants to spend time with me.

We have money in the bank. Most Americans who make a lot more money than me cannot afford a $400 emergency. Thanks to my Urchling's participation in our finances, we have a flush bank account that I wouldn't have if I had to do all the.oney saving things she does for us. I wouldn't have the time.

There's more but I'm at work and out of break time.