Yeah, there is, but you're missing it.

Here's the deal, in two parts.

First off, collectively women are pretty much incensed with men thinking we're all the same. Think about it. How many times have you heard a version of "women are not a monolith". Doesn't matter how much we push back on men thinking and talking about us like we all rolled off the Stepford Chics R Us factory floor, y'all can't seem to help yourselves. It's fucking dehumanizing, man.

And then y'all roll up into dating apps, where we're overwhelmed with profiles because men tend to like nearly everyone (the apps are predominantly male) and we're looking for someone to pop out, right? Be a little different, right?

And y'all give us picture after picture of fish like you rolled off the Stepford Dudes R Us factory floor.

It's enough to chap anyone's ass and put them in a foul mood. It's also almost like you're deliberately making fun of us.

We're real people, not dolls. Not automotons. Looking to be seen, for once, as a real, whole person desired by another whole person.

And you show us fish.
Fish everywhere.
An entire page full of nothing but fish. All the same. As far as the eye can see. And then the occasional gym rat admiring himself in front of a mirror while taking a selfie. Then more fish. With the right sound track, this could be a horror movie. Or a really creepy suspense thriller.

Newsflash. We don't want you men to be dolls or poppets either. We don't want to be asked to see or treat you as such.

That's just messed up.

The second thing is how men justify their fish pics. According to them it's because "women need men to be providers and protectors and this shows he's a good provider". Grrr. Number one, the provider and protector narrative has been used as a cudgel to beat and abuse us on a societal level. Not your best play, doubling down on that. Number two, a scrawny little rinky dink panfish does not prove it show you can provide anything more than an appetizer. Number three, we have our own careers and money now. We also don't need fish of questionable food safety, given the degradation of the environment and relaxing of EPA regulations.

Fish pictures do not send the message you imagine.

If you want to show yourselves as providers and protectors, have pics with you adding something to the shopling list on the feidfe after you used up the last of it. Have a pic pushing a vacuum. Setting the table. Helping your kids (if you have them) with their homework. Show us you're capable of taking some of the burdens off our plates.

That's what we've been saying we need. Am I wrong? Show us you're paying attention and meet us where we are.

For what it's worth, I enjoy fishing so I respect the hobby. I didn't mind fish pics in the album. But it shouldn't ever be your profile image on a dating site.