Yeah. I nearly fell out 30 years ago when a neighbor informed me he irreparably harmed his marriage because he didn't know his wife could have an orgasm. He never invested in her pleasure. Not once. In over a decade of marriage.

He was just a few years older than me. We were the first generation to grow up after the sexual revolution.

And somehow or other he was just clueless nor did he care to ever run a clue down. How does that happen?

I thought he was shining me on, probably trying to get in my pants to make his ex jealous. Right? Cause you have to know that nobody stays married to someone (outside force) who's not getting the job done without attempting to rectify that defect with all the energy they can muster. Right? So does that happen that you're married for 10 damn years to someone who is begging and pleading with you to sexually satisfy them. Exactly how big of a dunderhead do you have to be to not notice? For ten damn years?

You're putting some energy into maintaining that level of obtuseness. Come on.

And yet....

Two more generations behind mine now and a third one beginning to enter adulthood....

And I'm still hearing this bullshit....all over the internet now, but still. I'm still hearing this bullshit.

Regularly.

Alongside all the overwhelming majority of content out there proving the falseness of this belief.

I say again. You gotta be putting some wicked energy levels into maintaining this amount of obtuseness. You gotta be investing pretty heavily.