Yeah, and how women are so entitled today and Lord God knows what all. There's no fucking telling.

I've got no idea why it's such a big deal. When they're raging about it, there's usually something or other about their mother teaching them to be men or gentlemen or something or other.

Like me holding the door this one freaking time somehow magically negates ALL the OTHER times he's performed that act of service for other women. The gall of me. To not get boy math.

One guy went off when Urchling was young because I was teaching her to hold the door for whoever's behind her and he made her cry. She was about 6 at the time, I think. She thought he was going to hit me.

Anyway, the point is, some people are somewhat unhinged over the door, they are not all women shaming men. Unfortunately, these folks who kick off over the door are something the rest of us have to deal with. Even, if the door situation magically disappeared tomorrow and wasn't a thing, we'd still have to be dealing with these folks. It would just be about something else, because it's truly not about the door. It's about uncertainty and fear (cause it's still just a goddamned door). And that's not changing any time soon.

And it's also true that these situations are in the minority and are for the most part a minor nuisance. Some guy held a door for me this morning and I got a door for a guy late yesterday afternoon. Nothing dramatic happened.

In fact, I'd guestimate that one way or the other, I'm involved in a door holding scenario on average 3 times a week. The vast majority of those I would describe as positive interactions. A few were neutral. A very small minority few were borderline negative.

I know it's anecdotal, but that describes a reality where most of us are fine with the door. Nobody's getting their knickers in a bunch.

The truly bad ones stick out and that's because we do have some societal problems that are manifesting themselves all over the place in all the ways. This is one of the ways.