Would you say the same to any other special needs person? You're being incredibly flip about people's trauma.

Some things, you can get better but never completely get over.

Take the case of an alcoholic. You can achieve sobriety, but ifbyou want to maintain it you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with snother alcoholic, or someone who refuses to keep alcohol out of the house, or someone who discourages you from goinf to meeting because they're jeous of your sponsor, or or or.

Part of being in a healthy relationship is being able to take care of your partner when they need a little extra or to know they can lean on your strength when they're feeling weak as an effect of a devastating trauma they faced.

A rape survivor CANNOT count on this guy to not trigger some suicidal ideation or self loathing as an effect of that trauma and his callousness to the realities of rape. That trauma is going to be with her the rest of her life. Rape victims, in overwhelming numbers self harm, attempt suicide, and struggle with self worth and self loathing. A guy who thinks like this is going to be torture for her to be around.