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2 min readFeb 8, 2024

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Won't be enough. You have make negative consequences to certain things.

Like, it's not enough of a deterrent to jail people for committing fraud. You have to make being a fraud an unwanted and unsupported and unwelcome person in the community. You have to make it a character flaw that will get you ostracized. They have to be perceived as the sorry sort of low character trash that no one will miss. They have to be like Merle Dixon.

Otherwise, there's always going to be a calculus on whether or not the jail time is worth the potential gains of the fraud and the community becomes hostage to that constant selfish calculus. Trust breaks down. Selfishness rises. Everyone is out for themselves. "Everyone else is getting theirs, why shouldn't I get mine".

Forms of mockery, shunning, ostracization, and eventually exile are very important balance checks to keep the pecking inherent to dominance hierarchy from getting out of hand.

If men refuse to cast off dominance hierarchy with us women because "somebody has to be in charge", then they must also accept that their feelings of loneliness don't matter. They've been isolated into loneliness because the pecking of underlings in the hierarchy has gotten out of hand. And it will stay that way until they reign that shit in back to tolerable levels or the sexes segregate in some fashion.

If you look around at types of dominance hierarchies in the animal kingdom, that doesn't work out well for most males. Generally, there a lot few males than females. Just saying.

Y'all can scream about it all you want. Blame women all you want. But in the end, you're choosing it as much or more than we are.

Moves and counter moves. It's always moves and counter moves. Learn to negotiate and think about others instead of just yourselves. You're an individual but you're also part of a family, a community, severap groups and organizations, a county, a state/province, a nation, and the world. Your life is a tapestry, not a single thread.

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