Women marry for a variety of reasons. A lot of women love the semi-isolated nature of base life. There are a lot of advantages to being a military spouse. You get major discounts and freebies as a military spouse, including free healthcare as long as the spouse is in the service on things that would otherwise be high ticket items. If you can get enough support and petition for permission, you can get base space for things like community gardens or workshops where you can learn skills like carpentry. Again, free, use of tools, and often free supplies. I still have the desk, chest of drawers, floating shelf, and refurbished antique steamer trunk my Mom and Dad made at Ft. Bragg years ago. You get a chance to travel the world as well, during many of your spouse’s deployments as there are bases all over the world and they’re not all in or near hostile territory. Good retirement plan if you’re career. Scholarship opportunities for children of military. Top notch education, unlike the public school system.

I could go on.

It’s not all about you or "tough guy" tropes and attractions. Sorry, not sorry to burst your bubble there.

It’s not like women don’t have aesthetic preferences or completely ignore influences of attraction, they just tend to look at the whole landscape of where they and their children are going to land MORE.