When the obsession ends.
When it's about how you feel in your body, health, ability, and energy wise rather than how you think you'll be judged by other people.
Unless you need them for professional reasons, eliminate/do the following.
* Put the scale away. Start a bullet journal and track your eating/sleeping/exercise habits and when you hit the goldilocks zone of where you know you're at your best self, then go weigh yourself. That's your regime for best health and that's your weight. Period. However you look and whatever size you are at that point, that's your body. Period.
Absolutely everyone else can take their unsolicited opinions and shove it up their ass.
Stop soliciting opinions and messaging. Turn the TV off. Go ad free on streaming. Stay out of magazines. Discipline yourself in some small way every time you catch yourself comparing. Hold yourself accountable and take time in that moment to retrain your thinking patterns away from this bullshit.
Move. And cut yourself some slack, almost all of us have more sedentary lives than we should and it does effect iur self perception about our bodies. We feel stiff and lethargic and that will emotionally lead to where it leaves. I get your job requires you to sit behind a desk. If you can, take 5 minutes every hour to get up and move around and stretch a bit. If you can, eat while you're working and use your breaks to go for quick walks or jogs, etc. If you can't, then when you get home focus on stretching out the kinks tailored for office workers. 15 minutes. No excuses.
Rewrite your ending. Purposefully, with the agency of choice, think about your body in terms of positive ways rather than negative ones. For example, if you're really and truly unhappy with your body, first off check yourself. Are you unhappy about your body or are you stressed about how others might be unhappy with your body or that you're not meeting expectations? Get real with yourself. Get real. For real. You know what I'm saying. If you don't like your body, what don't you like? Be specific. Like, if you dont like your legs, you'll start an active hobby that focuses on leg musculature so you can get that look. It might be ballet Barre exercises and dance, it might be skating, it might be cycling or hiking. Women who do these things a lot, have a certain look to their musculature. If you absoslutely hate the activity, you have no right to hate your legs for not having the aesthetic. Right? See what's happening there? You're swapping a transactional or covetous mindset for a cultivator's mindset.
That's how you ensure it's about your health and well-being and not about social pressure.
You're a woman. Always and forever there's going to be someone somewhere trying to tell you why you suck and how you should improve yourself to be more acceptable to them.
As feminists, we have one thint to say to these cretins.
Say it with me now.
"Absolutely fucking not and shove it up your ass".
So l, this is how I check myself. Hope you find it useful.
You know, you don't have to shop at stores that only carry skinny sizes. More of us could collectively be doing things to pressure the fashion industry away from being such insufferable douchebags. That should be a part of body positivity too.
