Well, you've kind of missed the point. The "I don't need a man" statements and pledges are not bashing or bringing down men. They themselves are a response to rhetoric coming from far right men's groups that has been harmful to women. That's where it started. A response to misogyny coming from social media.
The kind of stuff where men claim that women can't be happy unless they're married with children. Or that women need men but men will never need women. Or that women aren't capable of taking care of themselves. Men killing themselves is the fault of women for not submitting to abusers (he only hit her once and she asked for it winkwinknudgenudge). Blah blah blah blah blah.
So women started clapping back on social media to these troglodytes who were posting their vitriol in women's spaces online.
"No, actually. I don't need men. I can take care of myself. I don't want to be dependent on a man. That's not fair to me or to him."
And here's where you miss the salient point of the rhetoric. The second half. Ready?
"I don't need a man to be happy. But, I WANT ONE TO SHARE MY LIFE WITH".
Who could have guessed men would lose their damned minds over being wanted? Any reasonable person would conclude that being wanted over being needed is the superior place to find oneself. If one is wanted, one is desired, treated better, safer from being abandoned, and cherished. If one is needed, then one's use to the other party disappears along with that need, if it ever does. There's a lot of grey divorces for a reason and a reason it's mostly the women leaving the men. These women felt that needed a man, but they didn't really want one or weren't particularly happy with the selection available to them at choosing time. They settled. And then regretted it. For years.
But no. The manosphere menfolks came unglued. Or, sniffed too much glue, hard to say. Maybe they chugged a handful of those red pills they're so fond of along with their Red Bull? At any rate, the social media response from their corner was ...
"You bitches need to submit or we'll go overseas and get a traditional woman who will submit and take care of us and you'll die alone with cats. So there. Women are evil. Women are useless. You're too fat and ugly to even be lucky enough to get raped by us. Your standards are to high. You cunts all deserve to die. Enjoy your cats and dusty cobwebbed cooch."
Yeah. Again, making sure they hit ever women's space imaginable, particularly the feminist ones.
So now, the response from any woman with a brain, not just the feminists, has been solidifying around the following....
1. Okay then. I accept those terms. Good luck with that. Where can I pick up my cat?
2. Do you need help packing your bags?
3. You think Eastern European women are going to submit to you? Bless your heart.
4. Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. Don't slam it on the way out either.
5. And why are cobwebs a problem?
6. You do you, Boo.
And so forth and so on.
Look at it like this. If I'm at a ball game and my buddy John has gone to fetch us some dogs and a beer, if I call out, "Hey John!!! I think I'd rather hsve nachos. Can you get me some nachos instead?" I'm saying that publicly and there very well might be several other 'John's' around who might look up and see who's calling their name. But pretty quick it's going to be rather obvious that I was talking to my John, not them. Right?
This is the same thing. These responses are not to 'men' as an entire gender. Nor are they bashing men as a group or as a gender. Duh.
No. Even though it's said in a public space, on the internet, it's a back and forth between certain groups. The pack of muling, cretenous slugs having a meltdown with their teeny tiny small dick energy and the women they're harassing on the internet.
If that's not you or your guy, then y'all can move on with grace and ease and enjoy your relationship. This particular tet a tet isn't about you. Congratulations on needing a man and finding happiness in that dynamic. We wish you both all the best. (If that reads sarcastic, I'm actually sincere here. Wish you both many happy years together.)
Please return that grace by not criticizing, dismissing, demonizing, admonishing, or disregarding those of us who prefer independence for protecting ourselves from certain men who invaded our space first with their violence, hatred, and vitriol. Our fight for the right to choose hownwe wish to live our lives protects your choice as well.
Remember that. Respect it. Otherwise, if your husband should pass away young, you might find yourself having been given out to some Incels as a sex slave by lottery once a year so they won't murder people out of "completely understandable" frustration.
I believe the reasoning was that "men have to take a bullet so you can take that (dick) for 10 minutes".
Praise Jeebus.
This particular dude was one of those far right God led evangelical promising young men, so I'm surprised you're unfamiliar with the background of the debate. A lot of it is coming from your religion. Didn't you know?
