Well. You're right about the tedium. If only the rest od the world agrees with your definitions of words instead of Google, that asshat Webster, or the pretentious blowhards down at Oxford, right?
The general killing of women and girls without consideration to intent based on identity tity bigotry would be called homicide, the same as everyone else.
Sure, that usage recognizes women as human beings, and I know that makes a lot of guys uncomfortable, but it's not like you don't have plenty of other ways and opportunities to 'other' women that are much easier to get more people to go along with. I think you're safe to give up the attempt to usurp Google and our collective agreements on who has authority over what words mean. (not you, sorry).
Simon recently tried the same sort of linguistic sleight of hand over pronoun tense, bending universal language rules "just to win a debate" and then projecting.
Your thoughts on social constructs and subconscious thoughts are the same sort of a chicken and egg scenario one runs across in criticisms of evolution by those who never bothered to understand it properly in the first place and then insist everyone else is wrong. I see that here on your statement of innateness, a clear misunderstanding of how innateness works inside complex creatures like human beings.