Well yeah. It seems hurtful because it is.

There's not many better ways to tell someonentht they don't really matter to you, that they'll never be a priority to you than them voting for someone who blatantly, baldly, braggingly, with unending hecking bloviations galore out in briad daylight and everything consistently writes and/or votes for legislation that disenfranchises you and then gaslights you about it based on identity politics while berating you as a snowflake for identity politics.

You can't make this shit up. It's the same thing with young GenX. They're our parents too.