Well, the more respect, more understanding, more forgiveness, be like Jesus spiel ignores and erases an equally important facet of Jesus' personality and his ministry.
His rebukes.
Jesus wasn’t very forgiving of the Temple money changers. He saw what they were doing as corrupt and abusive. He drove them from the temple. Literally, with a whip. Several occurrences, including Matthew 21:12.
Jesus wasn’t very understanding when he lost patience with the Pharisees and called them out publicly as hypocrites. Matthew 23:13. You’ll recall he did not pull any punches.
And he wasn’t very patient when he basically bawled Peter out for being thick headed, saying "You still don’t get it?!?" I can’t remember off the top of my head where that passage is from to find easily and I’m trying to get dinner ready, but I’m sure you remember it.
Okay, so this whole complimentarian doctrine is insane and just stupid. It erodes you, as you were saying. Women are human beings, not puppets. Besides, if Jesus can respond to hypocrisy, frustration, and corruption with anger and yet commit no sin by doing so, then either that doctrine is wrong or you’re asking and expecting women to be better and more divine than Jesus. Or you’re making the assumption that men will never falter. I’m guessing I’m not the only one that just doesn’t track for. (Logic can make for a gruelling but not unreasonable taskmaster/mistress).
Cognitive dissonance and faulty assumptions (despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary) on the other hand do not make for fine lines. They make for thick, course, sticky, hard to miss ones.
Jesus saw them and responded with what we must consider to be appropriate and measured if He was perfect and divine. His response was not submissive or subservient.
Our conclusions here are not confusing. Nor are they up to manipulation based on whimsy interpretations couched in greed and ego.
I WILL NOT blind myself to those lines to flatter male ego or because it makes a man uncomfortable. Nor should any woman. That is NOT our purpose. We have a higher calling than pandering to the weaknesses and wickedness inside men.
So that’s my two cents. It’s a fine line between living a Christ inspired life and being a door mat until you realize that it must more than just the “sweet and good" parts. Then it’s not a fine line at all.
