Well, sometimes women are trainwrecks too. The fact is, there's a whole population of folks, men AND women who have absolutely no business dating.
They're in a fucked up headspace. I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm saying it because it's true.
It doesn't have to be a permanent thing. We can all work on ourselbes and get ourselves a good mental deflossing to get rid of these wacked out notions that burrow their way into our brains like worms. And let's face were all bombarded with marketing propaganda and religious or political dogma designed to fuck up our headspace.
It takes work to parse all that out, persistence and vigilence to resist it in the first place, and grace and courage towards oursekves to forgive ourselves and face it enough to have the will to do that work just to keep ourselves in some sort of functioning mental health.
So there's no shame or blame here.
Coming back around to the point, those tactics DO work which is why theyte popular.
But.
They only work on a particular type of woman.
For a reason.
If the woman you end up with doesn't matter to you, it's because you have no self respect and you're putting yourself in a vulnerable position. You will pay for this one way or another. It will not be pretty.
Or.
You're not interested in this woman's personhood and you're using her as a living blow up sex doll. She may go along with it if she lacks any kind of self respect but you're still choosing to be sexually exploitative and abusive while hiding that very obvious fact behind "but I was never chosen so I had to."
I don't know which. I don't know you. But either way, whether you're exposing yourself to exploitation or being the exploiter .... this is not a good place to be.
If you were in a healthier headspace, you would not want to be in either. Neither would be acceptable. Just saying.
Like I said, you're an adult. All learning from that point forward will be via the school of hard knocks. Just like the rest of us. And I already know the words and wisdom of women carry very little weight with you.
