Well, of course the same applies both ways. Control is not love.

And yes, it would be a deflection to bring it up off topic. We've had incidents of celebrities being outed for controlling behavior. They both happen to be men. But that's itrelevant. The relevance is the controlling behavior. The making demands your partner change in ways that threaten or downgrade their financial livelihoodof your partner based on your feelings of insecurity.

It's not surprising at all to me that both these celebrities being outed are men. But that's because only men are insecure and attempt this shit.

It's because men are not socialized in the same way women are that this bullshit is acceptable and so they are not as likely to accept it in the first place, not that the attempts don't exist.

Sarah acquiesced to his crazy at first to keep him happy. Had he been smarter about it, he would have gotten away with a lot more before she realized what was truly going down. And that's ALL down to that socialization that women are responsible for men's feelings and emotional states.

All these men commenting are insisting he did nothing wrong. They're pushing that responsibility back toward women rather than being responsible for their own emotional states. The women commenting are refusing to pick that burden back up because when that's how things were, it was us opting out left, right, and sideways or downing whatever numbing agent you could get your hands on just to make it through your day or self harming.