We disagree that politeness and civility make a person good.

And yes, its naive to think that judt because you treat someone "decently", which is nonspefic here and that's problematic, that one will get that treatment in return.

Like I said you sound like my mother.

Jesus' golden rule is not a panacea that will fix people. I'm sorry, but that's magical thinking. Besides, Jesus himself did not adhere to that entirely. Or are we concluding that the money changers in the temple felt like being driven out by a whip was fair and decent treatment or exchange?