True. I get some of what he's saying, but like a lot of the the point of view, it's still predicated on dominance. Only, he wants women to be dominant over men (at least sexually), thinks that sexuality is inherently a power dynamic otherwise it's no good, and then accuses women of secretly liking and desiring patriarchy because they refuse to dominante.

The reality is most women do notnwant to dominate OR be dominated. They want risiculous never ending competition OUT of personal relationships.

I do agree with him about women needing to deal more with their participation in patriarchy. In fact, to add to what the Elle said in essay, that's another reason why it's inappropriate to labor dump the fix onto women. We're patients too and can't heal ourselves having to hold the hands of men because they want to be cowards or lazy or whatever their problem is. You can't save someone from drowning when they're the one holding you under water in a panic. You HAVE to get clear of them first and then you can render aid. But only from afar. They still have to be stronf enough, aware enough, and calm enough to quit flailing around.

I disagree that it's not already happening. This isn't an overnight fix for any of us. It took generations to get where we are, it'll take generations to get out. Women are doing the work. Not all women, but far more than he seems to think. It's also not a straight line. No one remembers how to be different anymore. There's going to be some bumbling and stumbling around trying to reaquire that lost knowledge.