Thought provoking article and I appreciate your perspective.

I also agree with everythig Jewel said. In the end social bonds are forged on the idea of reciprocal altruism. We start to feel resentments when we feel like we're giving more than we're getting.

I did find one of your examples particularly peculiar, but there's no context about how long gouve been dating. I've heard men say this before in recent times, it never used to be a thing before.

You said you felt used by women dating you based on your reputation rather than who you are as a person. But unless she knew you for a decent chunk of time beforehand, how could she know you other than by your reputation? Isn't that the purpose of the date? To get to know each other more? Most dating is done off apps these days, particularly amongst the young and older set. How well can you truly know someone from a few text exchanges. Are you putting your cart before your horse with this resentment? Gotta admit, most of the time I'm hearing this from men, it seems so.

Like I said, this one pinged as a peculiar thing to say to me, but I recognize there's no real, meaningful context too. Can you clarify and expand on that?