This right here is what's wrong with your thinking.

You falsely equate discipline with assertiveness and dominance.

You think it doesn't take discipline to avoid conflict rather than start it? To negotiate rather than fight? To encourage and uplift so everyone thrives rather than selfishly only concern yourself with your own interests by "dominating".

You think this is discipline? Leadership?

Hmm. Kind of says it all right there.

Google has a dictionary. You should check it out.