This is an excuse and a cop out.

You cannot make everyone happy. You'll make yourself crazy trying and nothing you do will ever be enough.

In comparison: some men will never accept my desire and need for bodily autonomy. They actively work against me having those things in many many ways, big and small.

But not having it is deteimentsl to my well being, to the point where I'd rather be dead than an be named Ofsomeguy (Handmaid's Tale reference). I'd rather have bashed my sweet daughter's brains out the day she was born than abandon her to that fate (Beloved reference). Do you know how much I love my daughter?

So. If that is how I am harmed by loss of autonomy, should I not fight against it and strive for something else (so long as that striving doesn't hurt someone else) just because of some men? Or, should I accept accountability to change and explore and surround myself with people who want and need the same things I want and need and not worry about everyone who doesn't? Should I heal myself or wait around for someone to come save me?