They weren't particularly mean. They also weren't directed at John Henry. At all. Tony is misrepresenting things here.

John Henry's essay was written in 3rd person throughout. It was a very generalized basic informative style essay with a mild bend toward a call to action at the end. There was nothing personal about it. Ergo, the comments Tony is taking objection to were also basic generalized comments, many of them directed specifically at Incels culture. In fact, that passage was highlighted on many of those comments.

I agree with you, that John Henry seems open to hearing all sides. That said, it is never NOT bad form to ask women to hsve sympathy and compassion for Incels. They have abused us online for well over 20 years and nobody had any compassion for us. JH was incredibly obtuse to put that in there the way he did. Or crazy like a fox. It's hard to say. He's going to make decent bank on that article.

It also wasn't vulnerable, it was emotional dumping. It's not showing vulnerability to "show support" to lonely men by asking society, but really women due to the title and the tags, to show compassion and empathy without also calling men to deal with what's making them lonely, their belief that they are entitled to women's bodies and attention. It's labor dumping, like weaponized incompetence.

He got checked on those two things. But it wasn't personal.

And you're right, a lot of his comments were iffy.

Full disclose, I was one of the comments that made Tony's list. Actually, I think most of his list was from my comment. I had a list too.