They both sound depressed to me. His explanation of why he didn't do the dishes sounds like textbook executive dysfunction, a sign of depression.

Her rage is tinged with despair and feeling traoped. Just because women don't typically experience depression as anger doesn't mean they can't. In fact, I'd say rage as a depression symptom is on the rise with women.

As with you, I don't known either of these people myself. But for what it's worth, that's my take.