These are influencers. They are not "real", average people. They are con artists making money off of people's insecurities and fantasies. They're nefarious actors.
It's true that these people are dangerous. They promote a propaganda that has a way of seeping into the subconscious of the public, especially the young. Look at the damage and spread of dudes like Andrew Tate and Kim Kardashian.
But to suggest that the vast majority of people adhere to these inane gender/sex ideologies is ludicrous.
Whether we're talking about men or women, it's just a ridiculous notion to entertain.
The vast majority of us ARE average. There's no shame in it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. We want what everyone else wants and needs. Somebody to love who loves us back. Fundamentally, we all want that. We don't expect 10's. We expect honor, integrity, loyalty, compassion, and dedication. The exact same as most of us always have.
The differences is in how we define those things: to love and be loved back, honor, integrity, compassion, loyalty, and dedication.
Also, not everyone has a difference between their fantasy desire and their real life need.
My celebrity crush at 12: Richard Dean Anderson (Macgyver, Col Jack O'Neill). Why? He's competent, capable, he sees things through, he's kind, and I like his smile.
My celebrity crush at 51: Richard Dean Anderson. Same reasons. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
My "requirements" for a potential mate: a guy who is kind, capable, competent, can be depended on because he sees things through, and has a nice smile. I want to feel happy when he smiles, especially at me.
I consider myself to be very average. I want average things, including an average guy.
Problem is, most guys I've known aren't really competent or capable. They really play up learned helplessness so you'll take care of them and they can be lazy. They don't smile. They demand you smile all the time but performing masculinity for other men means they go around scowling all day long with their arms crossed over their chests — being "the man". They're not dependable. Because men get that bye for their visual focus, you have a shelf life. You can't count on them not leaving you when age, childbirth, and gravity take your beauty and leave you thicker around the middle.
I want and need what every woman wants and needs. Something very average. It's just not things men have invested in themselves in the last several decades so it's not as available as it used to be. It's the same stuff we've always wanted though.
