These are girls who grew up with abuse and have internalizes it. They think love = pain. They actually don’t know how to feel love without it. They, like male abusers, need therapy. Deep, intensive therapy.

They’re not suitable for partnering till they get it.

This is why you vet and watch for those red flags.

This is also where focus on sex really harms men. Long courtships are beneficial for both parties for a damn reason.

If men actually respected their actual dicks as much as they idolized being a “playa", they would not find themselves in this situation.

This is where that societal pressure to partner and stay partnered comes in too. The cultural narrative of how we should lay out the roadmap of our lives needs an overhaul. There are way too many fucked up people out there who shouldn’t be dating as a result of dominance hierarchy and capitalism.