There's no balance to it at all. See us as people. Treat us as people.

It's not like women don't find themselves attracted to men based on just looks either. It's not how it usually works, were usually more 'whole picture' in the attraztion department, but that doesn't mean it never does. Attraction is weird. There's not really any hard and fast rules to it, there's tendencies and very strong tendencies. It exists as a 4 dimenrional thing, if you will, not a 2 dimentional one.

The only way to make beadway with that, is to see and honor an attractant's humanity first and foremost.

I saw someone extremely attractive (to me) in Walmart last week. Had I not bowed out of dating, and had it been appropriate, I would have approached him and said hello. See if could spark some interest.

As it was, he was out with a bunch of friends, probably last minute gift shopping, so it wasn't appropriate. He never noticed me noticing him. He got admirered from afar and not intrused upon when he was clearly not dislaying any sort of openness to be approached at random.

And that's as it should be. He's a human being deservibg of and entitled to his own peace and I am not entitled to disturb it and make him uncomfortable just because I found myself attracted to him and I think I'm owed or getting cheated on sex.

This is not hard.