There's a lot of truth I'm that too. And yes, there are women who support and uphold the patriarchy too. We all have work to do. Never said otherwise.

Cannot recount the number of times my mother said to me, “you would be so pretty if you would only try. I don’t know what to do with you. I’m afraid you’ll come to a bad end.”

WTF? How do you “try" to be pretty? You either at or you’re not. And it’s completely up to the perception of the person making the judgement, who is typically NOT you.

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