There is nonpolitical or legal solution to rape. That's a pipe dream. You've got big feels about #MeToo. Fine.

I'm going to argue though, that there was some co fusion and a whole lot of shock. I thi k most men were legitimately not aware how widespread a problem rape is and that's not their fault. Women have been silent because of the backlash we face. Historically, the biggest backlash has been being abandoned or murdered by your own family after being assaulted. Worldwide. The speaking up came with thr generation that grew up with financial enfranchisement, which lessened the consequences of that backlash.

Secondly, it's clear that men, younger men in particular do not understand consent or what co statutes rape, defined legally or morally.

Thirdly, rape, "real" rape has always been presented in a "Stranger Danger" framing. Men learned that's not the case.

Fourthly, I think many men are coming to know "men" the way that women have come to know them. The internet is funny. People tend to forget that it's public and everyone can see. Men are seeing how men respond to women addressing these issues and they see how appalling and gruesome some of this bullshit it. The constant threats of violence. The belittling. The gaslighting. The denigration. They're also seeing how unsurprised women are and having to come to terms with what we live with and exactly how much of this shit has been going on right under their noses.

I think Thomas is right about shame. It is shameful. And shame is a legit response.

But men can't stay there forever or it will eat you alive. Shame is deadly if misappropriated or misused. (Emotions are tools).

Looks like most men have decided to turn away. Play like ostriches. So be it. There will be evolutionary consequences to that. And it's already happening.