Then it's up to them to redefine their value in the world.

Loneliness is a choice.

95% of women who abort do not regret doing so. It's hard and there's grief. That's not the same as trauma.

Men often don't do what they say they're going to do. Or they only do so resentfully because it's what's expected of them to fulfill their obligations to the manhood box.

Yes, there are a lot of birth control options. None of them are fool proof. A woman being on the pill or whatever does not absolve a man from using birth control available to him to prevent pregnancy if he doesn't want to risk becoming a father.