Then it sounds as if they're looking in the wrong place for the sort of woman they want.

There are plenty of women as you describe out there. They get it ores by men for the most part.

Let's face it, there's something weird going on with men too. It's not just women. And it does seem to have something to do with perceptions of femininity.

Most of what men describe as femininity is an illusion. It's a performance. The stuff they need is often tacked on as an afterthought, when you ask them.

You did the same thing in your article. You mentioned things about being pretty and making a man feel desired (for masculinity) before things like compassion and empathy. Then there was equating not fawning over a man with busting his balls (somebody brought that up in there somewhere).

But it's not the same.

Here's what it boils down to. Beauty fades for all of us. If that's all a a guy cares about, hes not someone who's worth a long term investment or someone you want to waste your youth on. You're better off spending your youth on yourself.

Secondly, if a guy has to have that constant performance to feel validated as a man, he needs to be aware that he's making a trade he doesn't want to make. He's trading or selling her respect for him for that performance because you will inherently lose respect for anyone you have to perform for.

Maybe that's where the ball busting comes in. It gets old.

If they're not being treated well, they're either with the wrong sort of woman for their lifestyle and what they need, or they're not treating their partners as well as you think.